Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts

Sunday, December 20, 2009

This Is About Friendship

In the name of Allah who gives Refuge to those in need.


It has been many weeks since I last updated this blog. I really wanted to share something here but Time and Opportunity really restrained me from doing so.

Yes, I was real busy the last week I was in Aotearoa. I didn't even had the opportunity to write even a simple entry to bid farewell to Wellington - the place that has seen through the changes I have gone, insyaAllah for the better.

And yes, when I'm safely back at home my access to the internet is very limited. I always have problem to load my own blog and thus, no opportunity to post new entries.

I remember talking to a friend about using blog as a mean to share knowledge and opinion - one of the ways a person who has no authority to speak publicly such as myself, can do the work of da'wah (may Allah be pleased with what I'm doing, and may my heart has no intention to be proud nor showing off). That is why, when I can't share anything in my blog, my heart is not at ease.

But today I have the opportunity and the time. And I will share something I found while doing some reading during my free time. It is about friendship.

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I came across this very interesting quote from Sheikh Sidi Ahmad al-Zarruq in this book titled Purification of the Heart by Hamza Yusuf:

"Seek out a companion to help you in your affairs, and take his counsel concerning matters that occur from both your inward states and outward affairs. If you do indeed take his companionship then treat him in a manner commensurate with his state and give him of your counsel based upon his inabilities and abilities, for the perfect friend is no longer to be found."
(Hamza Yusuf, 2004; pp.199-200)

This is one of the many advices Sheikh Sidi Ahmad al-Zarruq offered, as shared by Hamza Yusuf in his writing piece.

I really love this quote, as much as I love the other pearls of wisdom Sheikh al-Zarruq has written regarding how to be a good believer (Mukmin). Because this quote reminds me of a hadith regarding brotherhood.

Abu Hamzah Anas bin Malik (ra) who was the servant of the Messenger of Allah (saw) reported that the Prophet (saw) said, "No one of you (really) believes in (Allah and in His religion) until he loves for his brother
what he loves for his own self."

(Bukhari and Muslim)

In this hadith, the Prophet (saw) preached about Islamic brotherhood in particular, and about friendship and/or companionship in general. He (saw) told us to love our brothers (friends) the same exact way we would have loved our own self. This is a Golden Rule shared worldwide, throughout different religions and beliefs. The importance of this act is reflected on the condition the Prophet (saw) has stated: Incompleteness of Imaan (Faith).

Imaan is one of the most important matter in Islam. Anyone who observes the five pillars of Islam (namely the shahaadataani, the five appointed prayers, fasting, zakaat and hajj) can be regarded as a Muslim but a Muslim is not necessarily a Mukmin. A Mukmin is one who has complete Faith in Allah, His Prophets, His angels, His Books, the Final Day and the Divine Decree (qadak and qadar). And the Prophet (saw) said a Muslim's Imaan is incomplete whosoever does not love his brother the same way he would love for his own self, then this shows that this act of kindness is very important. Why, don't we all want to be a true believer (Mukmin)?

In the quote I shared earlier, Sheikh al-Zarruq advices us to seek a companion who can help us physically and spiritually. People of wisdom pointed out that a friend in need is a frend indeed but today's societies often see that only on the physical aspects - regarding financial, health and whatnot. How about the spiritual aspects? Really, we often overlook this even-more-important aspects of a human. And Sheikh al-Zarruq reminded us of that. The sheikh also repeats the wisdom of the Prophet - to do exactly the same as what the companion has done unto us.

This is, I believe, is true friendship.


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I would like to use this opportunity to thank every person who has been very kind to me while I was in Wellington. Thank you for the company, and thank you for the memories.

Wellington has done me a lot of good things. As a very dear friend has said to me, "bumi Wellington telah banyak berjasa mengubah saya ke arah kebaikan." I do agree with her, because I feel the same too. :')



"O Allah! Grant me friends who can be my aid in times of physical and spiritual needs and difficulties. For You created men so imperfect that they need be reminded when they forget. And I am but a mere human, and Your servant."

Saturday, July 4, 2009

Thank You

I couldn't sleep last night. Usually when I couldn't sleep, I'll count stars 'till I get sleepy but last night was too cloudy. And so, I lie awake trying to count sheep but guess what came out before my eyes? Not sheep. Not stars. It was the very faces of my friends, the Cohort 4 members. Yes, it was you (if you are reading this though I doubt anyone would read this).

It has been four long years, hasn't it? Four years full of adversities and challenges . . . but we had successfully overcome it, have we not? And that four years were full with unforgettable memories too - laughter, fun, excitement. Yet it feels like everything has just started yesterday, because the memories are too vivid I can hear and see them perfectly clear.

Yes, I'm talking about Cohort 4's Fourth Anniversary.

It was on this very day, four years back, when we all first registered as TESOL students in IPBA. Back then, we were all so young and naive. Do you remember?

One step through this door made us who we are today, has it not?

See? We were all so young and naive back then
Aren't we an energetic bunch of people?

Yes, we were anxious about many things, yet we were looking forward towards what the future has in store for us. We endured through many adversities, we always believe in each other despite the many disputes between any of us. We grew up with each challenge we faced to be the person we are today.

We participated in many things:


Sports:
This is a snapshot from Sports Day 2005

We participated actively:
The Laksamanas

Games:
Annual Handball and Volleyball games

As members of Student Council

BTN programme

We organised events:
English Day

We staged Shakespearean play:
The Tragedy of Macbeth

It was tiring, really
It was a pain in our asses
But it was fun, was it not? We learnt a lot, about each other from these things.


These things has taught us a lot of valuable lessons.

Appreciating each other:


Learn from one another:


Looking out for each others' back:


Have fun together:


Always be there for one another:


as friends.


To all Cohort 4 members out there, Happy 4th Anniversary!

*This entry is a tribute to all Cohort 4 members; from New Zealand, Australia and the United Kingdom.

If any of you happen to read this, please know this:

I AM THANKFUL TO HAVE YOU AS YOU ARE, AND THANK YOU FOR MAKING ME WHO I AM. MAY OUR FRIENDSHIP LAST FOREVER, and may we have the chance to see each other again next year.